When I was pregnant with my son people always asked “Do you want a boy or girl?” I would respond, “I just want a healthy baby that doesn’t turn into an asshole.” I really didn’t care about the gender! I just want my child/children to grow into respectable people that leave this world better than it was when they were brought into it. Is that too much to ask?
I ran across an article, “Rules for my Son” that had some great ideas! I thought what a great idea….make a list to keep reminding myself of the big picture. It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day tasks – Did Harrison eat anything green? Did he practice his letters/numbers/colors/animals/etc. Did he drink enough water? Did he get enough exercise? While these are all very important they should not be my main focus to fulfill the ultimate goal – raise a Godly man with a kind heart and brave spirit.
“Start a youth out on his way: even when he grows old he will not depart from it.”
- Love God above all else.
- Never shake someone’s hand sitting down. Stand up. Look them in the eye.
- There are plenty of ways to enter a pool – the stairs ain’t one! If you’re going to do anything in life – dive in!
- If you hunt and kill you clean and grill. Waste not, want not.
- In a negation, never make the first offer – you’ll always end up settling.
- Act like you’ve been there before. The big show in the end zone is ridiculous.
- Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be. Take leaps of faith – the best things in life start with a belly full of fear.
- Request the late check-out. And decline the wake-up calls. Learn to slow down and enjoy the moment.
- You’re only as good as the people you surround yourself with. Set high standards.
- Return a borrowed car with a fresh wash and full tank of gas. Always show gratitude.
- Don’t fill up on bread. (This made me think of my mother-in-law! She was very firm about this rule) Learn the art of savoring your food – meals are about laughter, smiles, and conversation – don’t just inhale your food and move on.
- If you need music and booze on the beach, you’re missing the point.
- Carry two handkerchiefs. The one is your back pocket is for you, the one in your breast pocket is for her. If you want a “Proverbs 31 wife” learn to be an “Ephesians 5 husband”. Very important.
- You marry the girl, you marry her family, but don’t forget your momma and where you came from, buddy!
- Write down your dreams and keep them under your hat. Every year make sure to add at least one dream to that list.
- Experience the serenity of traveling alone. Travel is the only thing that you can buy that will actually make you richer.
- Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room. The world is full of insecure girls that don’t think they’re pretty enough, and boys to shy to tell them how gorgeous they are. Be the change.
- In a game of HORSE, sometimes a simple free throw will get ’em. This applies to life too. Happiness is easy! Don’t overthink it!
- A smile goes a long way. Remember that everyone is fighting a battle you aren’t aware of – a smile may be enough to make their day. Consider the ripple effect you can make with kindness.
- Thank a veteran. Buy them a cup of coffee. Refer back to rule #2
- If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature! Embrace your uniqueness! Those imperfect perfections are what make you stand out. It’s what makes you, you – are you are perfectly made!
- Eat lunch with the new kid. You can never have enough friends.
- After writing an angry text, or email, read it carefully. Twice. And then Delete it! Learn to not carry anger.
- If you want to really see how good you are ask your dad to play – he won’t let you win! Sorry, buddy – but this is true. A competitive spirit is good for ya!
- Give credit. Take the blame. Always. Telling someone, “you’re right” may not be easy but not saying these words is even more difficult.
Of course I have countless other things I want to pass onto my boy – but these are a good start. What are some of your Rules?